There is a girl whom I've mentioned in previous newsletters home. I met her through one of my team-mates. She is affectionate, easy to laugh, candid and great fun at ktv. She is a student at HIT but is participating in a year-long academic exchange in S. Korea. We keep in touch, and I have worried about her on more than one occasion. Her self esteem is frail and is constantly being appraised based on how others treat her, particularly boyfriends. I've been impressed with none of them.
This afternoon, she gave me another reason to look toward Him to save her from...herself.
me 15:42:31
HEY! Long time no talk.
her 15:45:42
yep~~~
her 15:45:48
are you busy now?
me 15:46:01
No. Just relaxing at the moment.
me 15:46:21
You?
her 15:46:55
I've so busy these days and take maybe 3-4 hours sleep everyday
her 15:47:15
did [team-mate's name] tell you I'm on a diet~?
me 15:47:42
So you're on a diet AND you're only getting 3-4 hours of sleep everyday?
me 15:47:48
ME NO LIKE THIS!!!!!!
her 15:47:53
yea ...almost die
her 15:48:45
I just eat a meal once for three days...
her 15:48:52
but it works well
me 15:49:36
Wait a minute. You eat once every three days?
her 15:50:22
yes...
her 15:50:29
other time just drink water
me 15:50:46
My darling girl, that is NOT healthy in any way.
her 15:51:03
yea~~I know
me 15:51:12
If you don't eat more often than that, your body will burn not only fat but also healthy muscle.
her 15:51:13
but quickly to lose weight
her 15:51:24
I heard about that
me 15:51:58
Not necessarily. If your body thinks that it is starving, it will actually do all it can to preserve fat. It is a survival technique that you can't control.
her 15:52:38
really~~
her 15:52:56
I think it wont last long
me 15:52:56
If you want your body to let go of fat, you have to eat enough good things to let it know that it's ok to let go of it. Otherwise, you will discover that you're not losing much weight at all. It's your body's way of protecting itself.
me 15:53:39
Why are you trying to lose weight so quickly, anyway?
her 15:55:46
I don't know
me 15:56:49
You are beautiful. And I'm not saying that just because we're friends.
me 15:57:01
You don't need to put yourself in danger just to be thinner.
me 15:57:55
And if you're under stress, the diet is only adding to the pressure that your body is feeling. Make sure that you take care of yourself and treat your body right.
her 15:59:41
ok I will!
me 16:00:15
I hope so. I want you to come back healthy, not weak and feeble!
me 16:00:41
So promise me that you'll eat something good and healthy tonight for dinner, ok?
her 16:00:57
I ate my lunch today~~
me 16:01:37
Well, I hope that you eat dinner, as well. It doesn't have to be a huge meal...and it doesn't have to be junk food...but eat at least a little something so that your body knows you're not starving.
her 16:02:13
I am not sure~~~
her 16:02:29
I don't why I want to lose weight so sudenly
her 16:02:41
maybe because the Korean girls are so thin
me 16:03:18
Beauty comes in many shapes, not just thin girls.
her 16:04:32
I still want to ....
her 16:04:42
anyway I will watch out my health
her 16:04:53
I wont let myself die....
me 16:05:11
Losing weight isn't a bad thing, but you have to do it for the right reasons and through the right process.
me 16:06:04
Ok, I feel better if you promise me that you'll eat regular meals from this point forward. Don't make me come to Korea and feed you like a baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
her 16:06:22
I just want to do it in a fast way...
her 16:06:34
ok...I will eat supper...!!
her 16:06:37
don't worry
me 16:06:37
Fast is dangerous and often ineffective.
me 16:06:53
Be patient and do it the right way so that you don't harm yourself.
her 16:08:33
I will~~~~~~~~
me 16:09:02
Because you know that [the Canuck team-mate] and I mean what we say. If you don't take care of yourself, we will come knocking on your Korean door!
her 16:10:38
ok~~~I got it!
me 16:11:26
good
her 16:12:02
I will go to study~~~
me 16:12:12
Ok. Get some rest tonight.
me 16:12:15
Talk to you soon.
her 16:12:30
there is an midterm exam tomorrow
me 16:12:55
I hope you do well. Good food and a good night's sleep are major contributors for a successful exam.
